When I try to get near him and pet him, he will try to attack me. Cat's feces contains Toxoplasma gondii, a parasite commonly found in cat litter boxes that infects 30 and 50 percent of the world's population and is linked to mental health disorders such as schizophrenia, depression, and anxiety. She is a Siamese short hair. about 3 years ago, my boyfriend and I were living with his mom when we rescued a beautiful tortie. It hurts when anybody, not just an animal, hates you. If someone else tries to pet her she'll meow and run away, sometimes she even hisses. Another theory of why some cats attach to just one person: It comes down to breed. You may also want to switch to high-intensity cat exercise toys, as, while many cat toys help cats stay mentally active, some do a much better job than others at helping them release their energy. You have the simplest and easiest fixes of them all. Try copying the way your girlfriend pets her, maybe even sprinkling some catnip on your pants to make her stop associating your feet as a place she should be doing anything but nuzzling into. Oh its your house and everything smells like you. I try to play with him, but he still prefers to bite me. I had a weak moment a couple of weeks ago, as she did it twice in 14 hours, and in utter frustration I attempted to rub her nose in it (which sites have told me not to). She does not chat, she looks like she only tolerates me petting her. “We do not reject that cats may have social preferences, nor that some cats might form this type of attachment in certain circumstances, nor do we wish to imply that cats do not form some form of affectionate social relationship or bond with their owners,” the researchers carefully pointed out. Although you would never think of this as a friendly gesture with a human, to receive a head butt (head bunt) from a cat is a pretty big deal. Your cat could be sick. If another human stayed, she still could’ve felt a pang of betrayal, because while cats may not show it all the time, they do often get attached to their humans. That's just the way some cats are. In 2010, cats found in a home were gnawing on the feet of a dead 74-year-old man and his 94-year-old mother. It has been better in the last 24 hours but I feel like he is warming up to everyone but me. The hits in my household are ridiculously affordable: cat springs, ball track toys, & kick sticks. Check out all the other blogs I pen & photograph. Once she’s a lot less anxious, you can then start taking steps to make her a more snuggly version of herself if you’d like. The kitten has only been with us for 3 days. well it happened again and I got up quick and turned around since I wasn’t facing him and well he looked scared and shocked. And the next time you leave, I have a feeling she’ll take it better, because there’s a chance when you left this first time, she thought you would never return. Did another human come house sit while you were gone those two weeks? So he was terrified of noises, sudden movements and strange people. Try to resolve the specific issue by looking up exactly the change that’s been made in your environment. now he doesnt sleep with me and it seems he hasn’t been wanting my attention that much. Kitty may not yet be comfortable in his or her new home. Please help give me some advice I’m truly heartbroken and sad that my cat won’t give me any affection or love like she used to. Hissing at you without instigation (without you having done something that might have bothered your cat first). You've been warned. Maybe that on its own will be enough to get them to feel like the whole apartment, rather than just her room, is their safe space again. Two steps: There are quite a lot of behaviours that are true to some extent of nearly all cats that could lend themselves to making a human believe a cat doesn’t care for them. You’ve definitely identified the source of the problem, though. Make sure she has a scratching post to dig her claws into, and that she’s getting around 15-30 min of high energy exercise out a day (try these types of exercise toys for that). All rights reserved. I don’t know what to do and it truly hurts my feelings I guess you could say. Unique and good cat names that start with G? Cat peeing outside the litter box, for instance? I don’t know of anything massive that has changed since we got them and why she has become so stand-offish. Hi! Cat starved for attention and misbehaving to get more of it? He’s now long gone and she’s still ferocious towards me even tho I spent 2 weeks away after the cat was gone…. The vet is thinking she just has a “behavioral” problem and offered to prescribe her kitty prozac. Buy her a new cat bed, place an indoor cat door on the door to a bedroom so she’s the only one who can have access, and can escape from the new puppies to her own oasis whenever she wants. I am a “cat person” and we have five other cats, all males. I just recently took in my brother’s cat, Luna a couple days ago. When I say that I "catch" him, I mean that like, in a situation where I am standing in the hallway and he happens to run down the hall to get past me, I pick him up. And here you thought you were special. He used to enjoy being held by me and would sit on my lap. Also, I've heard male cats are supposed to be more affectionate. I don’t want to send this cat to a new home, but am afraid I’ll have to do that if I can’t make her stop hating me. She expects that from me and she doesn’t have to be nice. I’m not an expert, but based on my experience having adopted a second cat after 4 years with my only-cat furchild – it takes time. Join me & my furries in our little corner of the feline-obsessed world. But he needs his pill. They don't think much of you. this is a really good post. I love my cat so much and I’m already punishing myself enough for getting him into this mess . Enough that makes me and my partner uncomfortable. Then I find they go through a weird “teenager” phase where they aren’t fans of being cuddled, and then it takes them a little while (sometimes 6 months to a year or so) to get back to their normal cuddly selves. It's best to approach him while he is resting. Would love to know what Avery’s life was like before us. Sit with her in the room and spend as much time as you can with her and as she sniffs at the door to leave, let her out, but keep this room as her safe room until she is asking to go out of the room very frequently. My kitten also used to wake us up in the morning wanting to be cuddled but hasn’t done it in a whole. “Domestic Cats (. EDIT: In light of the details you just added, I think your cat may be suffering a medical condition. Is there anything I can do to get her to love me again? I love my cat and I don’t know what to do! Him and my other cat both go hang out with her but they used to always came back to hang with me eventually, Walter to his perch on my lap. Almost like when she moved from your mom’s house after living there for ten years, then never got to live with her again. I would do some quick inspections to make sure she is not bruised anywhere, and take her to the vet, especially if it doesn’t resolve itself. there have been some times when i accidentally ste on his tail or something, but nothing big. So, although sometimes you ignore or even scratch or bite gently during your games, these are 14 unmistakable signs that your cat loves you: Does My Cat Love me / Ways Your Cat Says I Love You: 1. She attacks me and hisses at me occainsionally. More on this will be discussed in the last section of this article, “How Can I Get My Cat to Like Me?”. Yes, I did care about her and would not have gotten her otherwise. He instead cuddled with her. Also, when I enter a room that she is in (such as mine) she will growl and hiss and then proceed to either attack my feet or hide from me. My Cat’s Personality Changed After Adopting a Second Cat! We recently had a lot of rain and also loud construction outside my bedroom which faces the street so maybe that’s part of it? But unlike dogs, cats see no reason to respond. Once he gets used to your presence in this new setting. I will often separate my two when I know I’ll be out of the house for a long period of time. Not being able to enjoy the delicious goodness of a Snickers would piss us off too. What can I do to help her get used to others? If your first cat is not going out of her way to pick fights with the kitten, that’s a step up over my Avery, who was actually picking fights with my second cat, Bjorn. Middle-aged women were the most common victims (shocker). For re-training him to be cuddly again, I have an article here that may help you. But even if you haven’t had your cat long at all – if you’re a new cat owner concerned your recently adopted cat’s personality just isn’t meshing well with yours, possibly even to the extent where you’re regretting your decision to adopt, hold off worrying for a second. I couldn't tell you what you did to change his attitude toward you but most cats love to be petted. I’ve heard it takes up to a month (or even two!) What happened? Of course, cats with cute, baby-like features won out over older felines, but overall, it seems cats are an acquired taste. or what’s going on. Train your cat to stop running away from you. I’m tired of bandaging my wounds, and I’m emotionally hurt every time the cat bites and scratches me with no provocation. Part of this is likely because there have been so many changes in your cat’s life (cats hate too much change, and moving to a new house with all new smells is a pretty big change!). Running away from you when you go near him/her. But do let me know how the vet appointment went! Appreciation for felines needs "time to develop," according to researchers. She sounds like she really does like you and care for you, but maybe that she gets sudden onset of feeling unwell or it maybe even hurts when she’s touched? Newt climbs up the stairs to see Charlie all the time, clearly he wants to be buddies with Charlie. Why is she like this towards me all of a sudden? So, i just got a new little kitty and my old cat is not very happy at all. Now even when she’s gone for hours he won’t really hang in my room, just lays on the couch in the living room all sad waiting for her to come home and only comes to me when he wants to eat. If you like the posts on KittyClysm, please take a moment to subscribe to the email newsletter! Still, for the most part, we love us some kitties. Trusting one human being is difficult enough for many cats — trusting more than one is overwhelming. Thank you for your post and taking the time to help us cat owners. What Can I Do? Life isn’t always easy for these cats. I’ve tried making them bond through doors, baby gates, and together but nothing is working. + Click to see the sources for this article. A Cat Blog for Cat Lovers & Kitty Keepers, January 6, 2018 by Elise Xavier | Updated: July 21, 2020 - 66 Comments.